Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Merry Christmas and Bahumbug

I can't believe Christmas is only a few days away. The excitement is building inside of me and I can hardly wait. Hardly wait to race down the stairs first thing Christmas morning with the kiddo's. With all this cheer that I have and always have, there is something new this year. Holiday Blues,....What is that????

I've never had it before. What is this wierd feeling? For the last 30 plus years I have been the team captain of everything Cheery. Need to get your fill of Christmas,...come to my house and by the first week on November you would swear you had entered the North Pole. Want to watch a Christmas movie? I have them all alphabetically arranged just waiting to be enjoyed or I could act them out for you scene by scene.

But this year something is a little off. I'm not sure if it's because I'm getting a little older and things are starting to bother me. Things that usually I would sluff off my shoulders so that someone else would be happy. The truth is,...I'm tired of being the bigger person!!! That's right, I said it outloud and posted it here in Blogland for the world to see. No I don't want to come to your house for Christmas Eve for the 7th year in a row so I can watch all my relatives get drunk on Teguilla and speak in a language that I can't understand. Don't get me wrong, this is wildly entertaining on any other night other than Christmas Eve. Then drive over an hour back with past out children and 2 tired parents.

A friend of mine put it poetically the other night as we were having our yearly Christmas Cookie baking session, i.e. kids are in bed and we drink a bottle of wine with the excuse of baking. She said I needed my "Donna Reed" moments. I don't have them very often. I'm the Mom who forgot to send a recipe to babygirl's preschool for the cookbook they were making. That left my child's picture in the back of the book with NO recipe. That's right,..I'm the Mom who forgot. This happens a lot.

So when the holidays come I want to dive into being a Mother and a wife. Live like The Beavers. I want to plan our special meals and holiday gatherings. I want to stay up late baking cookies for Santa and watch the boys play football outside. That's what I want! This isn't too much to ask but all these years I've been playing a role in someone else's Donna Reed moment.

Hubby has been very supportive since my "breakdown." You know the one that all husband's dread. He came home to find his wife in a bath while the children ran wreckless around me. I figured if I closed the bedroom door and I could see them from my bath,...it was just like parenting. I completely unloaded on him and he actually took it pretty good. So for the first year in 7 years we are staying at home on Christmas Eve. We'll get to watch Christmas movies with the kiddo's and put them to bed early. Then have a "wrap" party to prepare all the kid's Christmas goodies! The point is, sometimes you have to say what it is that you want. If saying it doesn't work, then DECLARE it!

Here's my sweet bunch of Holiday munchkins at our recent family portrait.



  1. You are right in taking a stand-your immediate family comes first, and it really is all for the kids...

  2. Thanks Susan,..I couldn't agree more!

  3. Glad you get to stay at home Christmas Eve. For the first time in years as well we get to do the same.
    Merry Christmas Michelle!

  4. Sounds like you're getting your priorities straight to me. And, seeing the pictures of your gorgeous family -- no wonder you want to stay home with them and get your own family traditions going. Have a happy, happy holiay. Cheers!

  5. I've been hearing a lot lately about people having the blues this year. And I want my Leave it to Beaver moments, too, but they never seem to work out the way I want them to. One of my friends once said about me that if I could live in a magical land with unicorns and fairies, I would be happy the rest of my life. And, she was right. I have often wished I could live in a '50's tv show, like Donna Reed or The Patty Duke Show and I swear that I was born in the wrong decade.

    Every year I want to have a big night where we all decorate the Christmas tree together, drink hot chocolate, and watch Christmas movies. And every year, I end up decorating the Christmas tree by myself, sad and irritated that my husband doesn't share my enthusiasm. It sucks. It happened again this year. My husband didn't celebrate Christmas growing up, so he doesn't really care all that much about Christmas. I hope I can at least share it with my kids someday. And the cookie/wine thing is such a good idea! I need to do that with a friend someday! Maybe next year!

    Take care of yourself this Christmas and enjoy your Christmas Eve at home!! And I hope you, my good friend, have a wonderful new year. You deserve it. Hugs!!

  6. Good for you! I know first hand about taking back your holiday. For YEARS we had to do it my oldest sister's way. We all had to put our feet down collectively about how we wanted to spend our holidays. A compromise was reached and in the end it made us all happier and closer.

    So good for you! And enjoy that beautiful family of yours. May all your Donna Reed dreams come true!


  7. I think you try way too hard to give everyone the perfect, Everything! Leave it to Beaver, etc., are just tv shows. No one has it perfect and everyone forgets, messes up once in awhile and has a bad day. Don't be so hard on yourself and let yourself have some relaxation that it sounds like you, so, very much, deserve! You have a very lucky family and I hope your holidays pick up and are as beautiful as you want them to be! And, I hope you get to just purely enjoy! Merry Christmas! :)

  8. I'm wondering if this year was a real blue Christmas.......seems like there's a lot of us with some blueness around....
    But, and though this is now days after Christmas....since I'm so behind at reading everyone's blog.......I'm so glad you took a stand....
    I hope the '4' of you enjoyed a fabulous Christmas....

    And now.....on to the new year!..........

    Love the pictures!

  9. Kudos to you for standing up for your family. I hope you enjoyed a nice Christmas Eve at home.
    Now it is a New Year, and may it be a happy one for you.

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